Sometimes this really seems to shock people. They appear genuinely upset when I say ‘this conversation is over’ or ‘I’m actually not interested in debating this with you.’ There’s an expectation that if you care about social justice and political issues, you’re always ‘on.’ You’re always ready to debate, you’re always ready to have theoretical discussions about your own lived experiences and the issues you care about, you’re always ready to defend yourself. That’s manifestly ridiculous and unjust, an expectation that’s simply not reasonable.
Setting boundaries/self preservation <3
Additionally, some arguments are just so thoroughly discredited that even bringing them up automatically concedes any debate they wanted to have; and it behooves us to tell them they haven’t earned a seat at the grown-ups table.
And just like, I have a life. I have a job and a girlfriend and friends and music to make and shit to write, I don’t have time or energy to explain to every fuckboy on the internet why they wrong.